Submit to your husband...?

Well, this is another one to go under the rant and rave category.
Lately, I've read several articles and magazine, from 'christian' SAHM's, their husbands, authors, etc. I see a re-occuring trend..the all-too-often quoted Bible verse that says, "Wives, submit to your husbands..". I see that this is a very poular trend. Submit, submit, submit. Okay, enough of that,already...
But why is it that I don't see the rest of the passage there? I've double checked, and in NONE of the blogs/websites/articles, do they mention the rest.
The rest says, "and husbands, love and care for your wives, just as Christ did for the church" or something to that effect. It also mentions the role that children play..but that's another blog entry, for another day.
Why is it that all these 'christian' places focus on is the wife being submissive? what about the husband's role as treating her fairly and like a queen?(okay, that part was my own words, but I know from song of songs that if a man is to treat his wife as anything, he should be looking into that book of the Bible- Solomon was very devouted to his wife!)
I'm just a lil..(okay a LOT) peeve'd at the fact that since men run the church(not that I'm saying that's entirely wrong, to a fault), they have used and abused this passage for reasons to be dominate over their wives...and sometimes, abusive. Why on Earth would they only focus on one half of the equation?
So, I get it...wives are supposed to submit. But husbands are supposed to exalt her, and care for her and polish her up, and make her sparkly(once again, my own words-based on this particular Bible verse). Is wife rebellion more common than husband abuse? I don't have research, but I'm almost certain that's not the case. I'm almost certain that husbands have more of a problem using and in some cases abusing their dominance in a marraige.
I do wish that more of these "quiverfull" and other conservative christians would make it more of a point to draw attention to the entire verse, not just a fractionof it. When God blesses me as a husband, I pray that he is not a man that focuses solely on one fraction of the verse, but the entire thing.
If God is calling me to have more children and all that, I'll do it. But I'm not going to only pay attention to a fraction of a verse simply because that's what everyone else in the 'conservative' christian world is doing. If God does bless me with some sort of ministry, I want to bring up this valid point up as much as the churches will allow me, and more.
I'm just not feeling kosher with the idea that all that passage is used for is simply to make wives be 'submissive' and nothing more. While husbands are sittingon high and mighty throwns, having the last say about everything...screw that!!
If ANY man thinks I'm going to be one of those quiet, simple wives that blindly follow whatever they say...think again, buddy!! that AIN'T me.
God has some work to do with this wild spirit formely known as me...hehehe.
I'd better go.